After the breakup of a relationship, you will find no shortage of advice. It will come at you from every angle, your friends and relatives will chip in to tell you what they would do if they were in your shoes. The problem is that they are not in your shoes, and they do not feel the heartache and hopelessness you feel. They can give advice, but you are the one that will have to live with the consequences. So you have to be very careful of what you do and what you say to your ex boyfriend right after a breakup.

If you take a step back and think for a minute, you will realize that at present you are an emotional mess and cannot do anything but cry and wish things were back as they were before the breakup. But thinking this way will not help matters at all. If things were back as they were before the breakup, the same problems would be there waiting to tear the relationship apart again. Unless you can root out these problems and find a remedy for them, you can never get  your ex back or have a happy long lasting relationship with him.

When it comes to what to say to your ex boyfriend right after the breakup, the best advice is to say nothing. In your present emotional state any contact with him will probably end in an argument and more rejection for you. If you can hold out for a few weeks and go about your life without any contact with him, your chances of getting him back will skyrocket a hundred fold. But if you pursue him and keep begging, crying, and appearing desperate and needy, your chances could drop to zero.

You have plenty to do anyhow. First, you have to get a firm grip on yourself and appear to be alright with the breakup. You need to find out what caused it and how to fix the problem. When you feel you have solved this riddle, begin thinking of yourself. Go out with friends and have a good time. News of how well you have handled the breakup and seem to have moved on with your life will get back to your ex boyfriend. This will cause him to remember the good times the two of you used to have, and he will begin to have second thoughts about the breakup. Thinking back to when you were together and happy will cause him to miss you and want you back. This is why the best advice as to what to say to your ex boyfriend right the breakup is to say nothing.