When a breakup happens, usually there is one of the participants that would do anything to turn back time and make the breakup go away. But it will not go away. As soon as you fully realize what has happened, that you have lost the man you love, panic sets in and you want to run after him, bring him back, sit him down like a naughty little boy, and read him the riot act. It is even worse when you know that you were the one who caused the problem. Then it comes to the question of how to get my ex boyfriend to forgive me?

Sit down and think. Get a grip on your emotions and face the fact that you are not going to get your ex back today, tomorrow or next week. So running after him and begging forgiveness is not going to help. It will just make matters worse. Everyone makes mistakes. Depending upon how severe your mistake was that ended the relationship will probably determine the time it will take to get him to forgive you. If you simply did something to hurt him deeply, the time could be short. If it was something as serious as cheating, it will take a lot longer. The way you conduct yourself during the time he needs to heal will also determine when and if he forgives you.

When a man is hurt, he wants to be left alone. He feels the need to crawl off somewhere and work things out on his own. This is why you must not approach him for a few weeks. Although you will have an overwhelming urge to apologize and try to convince him that you will never do the thing that offended him again, do not contact him in any way whatsoever. Doing so could cause him to turn against you for good. Give him time and space and he will work things out. As the hurt feelings begin to fade, he will realize how much you mean to him and how he needs you in his life.

Once he reaches this point, and it will take several weeks, you can call him and offer an apology. Do not break up and start begging him to forgive you. This will make you look weak and untrustworthy. Just tell him you are sorry for hurting him and end the conversation. This is enough to let him know that you care for him and will set his wheels turning to forgive you. You will have to show him that you have changed and exercise a lot of patience. Once he see’s that you have made a sincere effort to change and that he can trust you, he will forgive you and fall madly in love with you again.