Relationship psychologists and experts view dating as a healing process in itself, if one is coming from a break-up. However, what about dating after a break-up with the sole intention of getting the attention of your ex in the hopes of getting him or her back? Let’s hear what these relationship gurus have to say:

Can I get my ex back by dating other people?

If your sole intention is just to get your ex back, then you may succeed in the short run but it’s going to be costly. While you may catch the attention of your lost love and create a sense of urgency in him to act quickly or else lose you, you obviously don’t want your current dating partner to feel and know that they are being used for an ulterior motive.

On the other hand, if you make it clear with that person you’re dating that you have just gotten out of a relationship and aren’t ready to commit yet, but … you make the mistake of dating the wrong person, then the odds aren’t in your favor of you winning back your ex. It’s like a girl dating a guy that your ex lover knows in reality is actually a gay. No sense of urgency is created and it will only make you look weaker.

In what ways is dating after a break-up considered a healing process?

Dating can either be referred to as a short term or long term healing process, depending on how you look at it. If your intention is just to date for having fun, meeting new people and temporarily getting your mind out of your ex, then it’s short term.

If however, you plan on dating or are dating someone who you find a strong interest for (i.e. a possibility of a start of a new relationship), then even if you’re still not ready to commit, it would be considered a long term healing process. Because let’s face the facts, there is always the possibility that you may meet someone who makes you feel different, makes you feel good about yourself and eventually you would find the desire to get your ex back is no longer present.

Should I really go out on a date just to ease my present pain?

No two people are exactly alike and while one might prefer going out on a “dating spree” to both forget and possibly hope of getting their ex back, another might be uncomfortable about that idea. And it’s all perfectly understandable.

There are definite healing benefits when you go out on a date (e.g. increasing your self-esteem and self-confidence – things that might help you win your ex back), but it’s not a hard and fast rule for those coming from a break-up. The choice is still yours to make.

What can I do, besides dating other people, to get my ex back?

If your emotions are still running high, and you can’t find yourself thinking straight or functioning well because of the break-up, then at this stage a date certainly isn’t recommended. Instead of focusing on what you can do at this very moment, it’s better to focus on what you’re not supposed to do. Because most likely, you’re going to worsen the situation and push your ex further away.

If you find yourself always texting, calling, emailing, begging, pleading, stalking, or constantly apologizing to your ex (for the sake of just winning him or her back), the best advice to take is to stop everything that you’re doing right now. At this point, 99% of the time all of the things you do will just be a turn-off on your ex partner.

It’s better to take a break, relax and allow yourself to recover. That way your thoughts and emotions are more settled and you can better think on what you can effectively say, do and act in order to get your ex back.

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